How Sad Your Life Must Be

I just read this post by Stacy Trasancos called Can’t Even Go To The Park which is all about how she can’t take her children to the park or the local swimming pool any more in fear that they will be exposed to The Gays. As a lesbian and an atheist one at that you’d probably guess that I’m exploding with all kinds of rage, and that is partly true, but mostly I am filled with sadness. Deep, genuine sadness. Sadness for a women, who in all fairness wants to be the best mother she can be to her kids, but has got herself caught up in so much hatred that instead of showing love to her children, she shows them the face of hatred and fear.

Stacy, the LGBT community is made up for people just like you. We want to create a safe and loving world. A world where our families and friends can grow up in a loving community. It saddens me that people like yourself, who want the same things for their families and friends can be the ones stopping us achieving this. The ones stopping it for everyone. Because it is people like you who create the hatred we see in the world today. Hatred and fear of people who are different, whether they have a different sexuality or a different religion.

Your whole post is full of descriptions of loving gay and lesbian families. Not one of these families behaved in any way that could even remotely be called offensive unless you call playing with and loving their children and partners offensive. Yet, you just see evil in these families that are not the same as yours. I can’t imagine going through life looking for things to hate and fear about other people. Jesus’ major statement ‘Love One Another’ didn’t come with a whole list of exceptions.  It is all encompassing, all accepting. Just like we all should be regardless of our religious or non-religious beliefs.  Imagine the world we could create if we accepted people instead of judging them.

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15 Responses to How Sad Your Life Must Be

  1. wordsfallfrommyeyes says:

    Wow, from Sydney to Germany? I live in Melbourne. This was a really good post, worth putting out there. I never read that woman’s post & didn’t click on the link – couldn’t be bothered with such crap. If we need to fear anyone per the safety of our little boys, it’s Catholic priests, if you ask me!

    • Riayn says:

      Thanks. I think Stacy’s post is worth reading simply because it is slightly different to the usual anti-gay stuff and it is always good to get an insight into how the other side thinks.

  2. I thought it would be a typical lame anti-gay post, but actually that woman sounds like she may need professional help.

    • Riayn says:

      Unfortunately, her viewpoint is very common amongst the religious right. It is what makes the Tea Party and by extension the Republican Party so damn terrifying. Makes me very glad I live in Germany.

  3. Wow. People like that are why I stopped going to church and why I doubt everything church members say. The worst part is she doesn’t at all understand why people are offended or believe she said anything offensive. Though the people saying they hope her children get raped and murdered really don’t help us have an intelligent conversation on the subject. I like your response much better :-)

    • Riayn says:

      I agree offensive comments are no way to deal with a conflict in viewpoints. It just inflames the situation further. It is sad that she can’t consider anyone else’s viewpoint other than her own.

  4. Not every church goer is ignorant and homophobic! I attend Episcopal/Anglican services and we have gay ministers.

    Sorry this woman is such an insane monster. Why you should (not!) be on the defensive for your choice is beyond me.

    • Riayn says:

      I know that there are many gay-positive Christian congregations out there which is why I was very careful to make this about this woman’s point of view rather than Christianity as a whole.

  5. Schlafanzug11 says:

    Thanks for your post, I totally agree with you.
    The sad thing about people like that Stacy woman is that they don’t see two people who are in love and care for each other. Alle she sees is two people of the same sex and to her that’s unacceptable :(
    After reading her post I’m still not entirely sure why. Is she afraid that one of her children might “turn” gay just by seeing a same-sex couple?

    • San says:

      I was wondering the same thing…. is she afraid that one of her kids could turn out gay? Or is it “just against the law of nature”? (Which it isn’t, because it’s obviously a natural occurrence.)

      • Riayn says:

        Her issue is that her religion teaches her that homosexuality is against God’s wishes. Therefore, she seems in gay people abominations against God. It’s a good example of the destructiveness of some religions.

  6. Her post goes beyond even LGBT issues too. It was just a generally shocking post. I’m glad it wasn’t full of hatred though…..I read it as someone who is just grossly misinformed and who does not have a fully rounded view of the issues.

    • Riayn says:

      She is misinformed through religious belief and unfortunately, people like that can’t easily be educated as what you are telling is in contraction to one of the most fundamental beliefs of their entire life.

  7. San says:

    Wow. That was pretty…. out there. I hope it was ok to re-tweet it. I think people must read this to know why we have so much hate in this country.

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